Another Year Older: Birthday Reflections from Jeanicia Elder

Hey there, fabulous readers!  It’s that time of year again—my birthday! Cue the confetti, the cake, and the existential crisis about how I’m somehow closer to 30 than 20. But instead of spiraling into a "what am I doing with my life?" moment, I’ve decided to take this opportunity to reflect on some of the hilarious and profound lessons I’ve learned over the years. Grab your party hats, and let’s dive in!

1. Age is Just a Number… and a Lot of Cake

You know the saying, “Age is just a number”? Well, I’ve come to realize it’s also the number of candles I need to blow out on my cake—and that is a serious fire hazard! Seriously, if you see smoke, it’s not the candles; it’s my impending midlife crisis trying to escape. So, I’ve learned to embrace the number and load up on frosting. Because if you can’t be young, you might as well be sweet!

2. Friendships are Like Good Wine: They Get Better with Age

Over the years, I’ve learned that true friends are like a fine wine—age them a bit, and they become even more delightful! Some of my friends have been around long enough to know all my embarrassing moments. Shout out to my crew who’ve witnessed me try (and fail) to dance at parties like nobody’s watching. You guys keep my secrets, and for that, I am eternally grateful. Let’s raise a glass (or a dumbbell) to friendship!

3. Fitness Isn’t a Destination; It’s a Hilarious Journey

As a fitness professional, I’ve spent years trying to inspire others while simultaneously trying to figure out how to not look like a flailing octopus during a workout. I’ve learned that progress comes in many forms, from lifting heavier weights to simply managing to get off the couch without pulling a muscle. Here’s to those small victories! And if all else fails, just remember: at least you showed up in your cute workout gear!

4. Self-Care Isn’t Selfish; It’s Necessary

Let me tell you, self-care is NOT just bubble baths and face masks (though those are lovely too). It’s also about saying no to things that drain your energy and yes to things that spark joy. For instance, I’ve learned that I’m not obligated to attend every social gathering, especially if it involves an awkward “get to know you” game. Sorry, not sorry! I’ll be over here binge-watching my favorite series instead.

5. The Key to Happiness is Laughter (and Maybe Cake)

I’ve learned that the best way to navigate life’s ups and downs is with a healthy dose of humor. Laughter truly is the best medicine, even if it sometimes comes from my own embarrassing moments. Like that time I tripped while demonstrating a fitness move and landed right in front of my class. Spoiler alert: I got up and made it a part of the routine. Who says we can’t laugh at ourselves?

6. Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff (or the Big Stuff, Honestly)

Life is too short to stress about things that really don’t matter in the grand scheme of things. Did I forget to turn off the oven for the second time this week? Yes. Is my house a mess? Absolutely. But instead of worrying, I’m learning to embrace the chaos! After all, who needs a perfectly organized life when you can have adventures, laughter, and maybe a little bit of cake?

7. Embrace the Weirdness

Finally, I’ve learned that it’s perfectly okay to be weird. Embrace your quirks and the things that make you unique! Whether it’s dancing like nobody's watching or having an inexplicable obsession with avocado toast, wear your weirdness like a badge of honor. Trust me; it’s way more fun than trying to fit into someone else's mold.

So, here’s to another year of laughter, love, and a few more gray hairs! I’m grateful for each lesson learned and every moment shared. Thank you for being part of my journey, and cheers to what’s next! Now, if you’ll excuse me, I’ve got some cake to devour. 

Until next time, keep shining and laughing!

Childhood: Not the Pure, Wholesome Wonderland You Think It Is

 

Ah, childhood—the golden age of innocence, where love is pure, play is carefree, and hate is always taught by some mustache-twirling adult villain. Right? Wrong.

Let’s be honest: glamorizing childhood is dangerous. Why? Because it erases the chaotic little sociopaths many of us were back then. Think about it—babies aren’t born holding hands, singing Kumbaya. They come out screaming, demanding things, and occasionally biting their fellow tiny humans just to see what happens. They’re scientists of the social world, conducting experiments like, “What will happen if I bite Timmy? Oh, he cries? Let’s do it again!”

From an early age, kids notice differences and make snap decisions. This isn’t some learned prejudice—it’s raw, unfiltered human nature. "That kid’s hair is different. Should I touch it or run? Their lunch smells weird. Should I ask for some or yell, ‘Ewwww!’?" Love and hate are just two sides of the same messy, exploratory coin.

The Problem with the "Love is Natural, Hate is Taught" Narrative

This feel-good slogan sounds lovely in Instagram posts with pastel fonts, but it oversimplifies human emotion. It paints this idyllic picture of childhood where everyone is naturally kind and generous until some adult corrupts them. But where does that leave the kid who pushed you off the swing in third grade just because they wanted to watch you cry? Spoiler: they weren’t coached by an evil overlord. They were testing the waters of cause and effect.

It’s like calling kids “blank slates.” Sure, they’re blank, but that doesn’t mean they only write sonnets and paint rainbows. Some scribble chaos all over the page, and that’s natural too.

The Truth About Tiny Humans

Glamorizing childhood makes us forget just how dangerous it is to assume kids are inherently "good." Kids are curious, unpredictable, and often selfish, and that’s not a bad thing—it’s a developmental thing. They’re learning. They’re figuring out how the world works, and sometimes, that learning involves testing their capacity to love, hate, or occasionally dump sand on your head.

By pretending childhood is this pristine utopia, we risk ignoring the very real challenges of teaching empathy, kindness, and self-control. Those things don’t magically emerge. They’re cultivated—and often through trial and error (and tears).

Childhood: The Real Takeaway

The next time you hear someone romanticizing childhood, remind them that for every heartwarming “kids are so pure” moment, there’s a story about the time little Johnny stuck a crayon up his nose and blamed his sibling. Childhood isn’t just laughter and sunshine; it’s messy, raw, and often hilarious—but also a reflection of the complexity of human nature.

Let’s stop pretending kids are naturally angelic, and start acknowledging that childhood is where the seeds of both kindness and cruelty take root. Love and hate? Both natural. Both inevitable. Both hilariously chaotic in their origins.

Childhood isn’t a golden age—it’s an experimental lab where we figure out how to be human. Let’s treat it that way, with the honesty (and humor) it deserves.

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Turning Pantry Leftovers into Magic: Peanut Butter Oatmeal Cookies (with a Twist!)

Let’s talk about those pantry items you swore you’d use but forgot about. For me, it was a massive 40 oz jar of peanut butter (a gift from someone who clearly thought I live on PB&Js) and a bag of rolled oats that I once believed would fuel a lifetime of oatmeal breakfasts. Spoiler alert: I’m over oatmeal.

For weeks, these two stared me down every time I opened the pantry, daring me to use them. But instead of feeling guilty, I saw an opportunity. After some creative problem-solving and a quick inventory check, I rolled up my sleeves and whipped up something delicious: Peanut Butter Oatmeal Cookies.

But I didn’t stop there—this time, I added a few unexpected tweaks to make the most of every last drop of peanut butter and create a no-waste masterpiece.

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The Recipe: Pantry-Clearing Peanut Butter Oatmeal Cookies

Ingredients:

• 40 oz peanut butter (about 5 cups)
• 2.5 cups rolled oats
• 1 cup all-purpose flour + ½ cup corn flour
• 1 cup honey
• 4 tablespoons chia seeds + 10 tablespoons water (chia "eggs")
• 2 teaspoons vanilla extract
• 2 teaspoons baking soda
• Optional: ½ teaspoon salt and mix-ins like chocolate chips, raisins, or nuts

The Secret Hack:

Once the peanut butter jar was nearly empty, I poured in some Silk plant-based milk, gave it a good shake, and created peanut butter milk. Not only did this clean out the jar, but it also made a creamy drink that paired perfectly with the cookies!

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Instructions:

1. Prepare the chia eggs: Mix chia seeds with water in a small bowl and let sit for about 5 minutes until it forms a gel.
2. Preheat oven: Set it to 325°F.
3. Mix wet ingredients: In a large bowl, stir together peanut butter, honey, chia eggs, and vanilla until smooth.
4. Add dry ingredients: Gradually mix in oats, flour mixture, baking soda, and salt (if using). If the dough feels too sticky, add a little more flour; if it’s too dry, add a splash of water or milk.
5. Shape cookies: Scoop dough onto lined baking sheets, flatten slightly with a fork or your fingers, and space them evenly.
6. Bake: Bake for 10–12 minutes, or until the edges are lightly golden. Let the cookies cool on the baking sheet for a few minutes before transferring them to a wire rack.
7. Enjoy or freeze: This recipe makes 50–60 cookies, so you can store extras in the freezer for future cravings!

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Freezing Instructions:

For Dough:

• Scoop individual cookie portions onto a baking sheet.
• Freeze until solid, about 1–2 hours.
• Once frozen, transfer the cookie dough portions to a freezer-safe bag or container.
• To bake from frozen, place the dough directly on a baking sheet and bake at 325°F for 12–14 minutes. No need to thaw!

For Baked Cookies:

• Once cookies have cooled completely, place them in a freezer-safe bag or container, separating layers with parchment paper.
• To enjoy later, let them thaw at room temperature, or warm them in the microwave for 10–15 seconds.

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Why Food Waste Matters

Did you know that Americans throw away up to 40% of the food we produce? That’s over 119 billion pounds of food each year! Letting food go to waste doesn’t just hurt your wallet—it also contributes to methane emissions in landfills, a significant factor in climate change.

By repurposing leftover pantry staples like peanut butter and oats into cookies, I gave those ingredients a second life. And thanks to the creative addition of peanut butter milk, not even the jar went to waste.

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The Results: Delicious and Resourceful

These cookies turned out perfectly chewy with a rich, nutty flavor. The honey adds a natural sweetness, the chia seeds bring a subtle crunch, and the flours lend the perfect balance of softness and structure. Plus, the added touch of corn flour gives them a unique texture that I absolutely love.

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Final Thoughts

This experiment reminded me that with a little creativity, forgotten ingredients can be transformed into something meaningful—and delicious. The next time you’re eyeing neglected pantry items, don’t toss them. Shake things up (literally, in the case of the peanut butter milk), challenge yourself, and enjoy the results.

If you try this recipe—or have your own pantry-clearing ideas—I’d love to hear about them. Let’s make our kitchens (and the world) a little greener, one cookie at a time!

Why Do People Care About Your Fitness Choices?

As a fitness instructor, I’ve noticed how much people can get invested in what you’re doing with your workouts. Whether you’re in love with POUND, focusing on strength training, or mixing in some yoga, people sometimes feel the need to chime in with their two cents. It's interesting how personal these conversations can get, almost as if your choice is somehow a reflection on theirs.

Here’s what I’ve come to realize: when people see you making different fitness choices, they sometimes interpret it as a critique of what they’re doing—even though that's not what’s happening at all. It’s like, “Wait, you don’t use pre-workout?!” Suddenly, they feel the need to defend why they can’t get through a workout without it. But the thing is, you’re not judging them at all. You’re just doing what works best for you.

We All Have Different Fitness Journeys

What people forget is that fitness isn’t a one-size-fits-all thing. Everyone’s body responds differently, and what works for you might not work for someone else. I love leading my POUND and STRONG Nation classes because they’re energetic, empowering, and full of variety. But that doesn’t mean I’m saying everyone should ditch their usual routine to join me (although it’s super fun!). It’s just my way of staying active and feeling great.

It’s a bit like how some people look at marriage or kids—what feels like a huge commitment to one person might feel totally manageable to someone else. You’re not saying, “This is the only way to live,” you’re just choosing what makes sense for you. And honestly, the same goes for your workouts.

Changing Trends, Changing Mindsets

What’s seen as “right” or “best” in fitness changes all the time. At one point, everyone was doing cardio, thinking it was the only way to lose weight and stay fit. Now, we know strength training is equally important. Here are a few more fitness trends that have changed over time:

1. Cardio Over Strength Training: Years ago, people believed if you weren’t sweating buckets on the treadmill, you weren’t getting a good workout. Now, we know that lifting weights builds muscle, boosts metabolism, and helps with long-term fitness. Read more on the benefits of strength training.

2. Low-Fat Diets: Remember when everything was low-fat, and we thought that was the way to stay healthy? Turns out, healthy fats are actually important! Avocados, anyone? The myth of low-fat diets explained.

3. No Pain, No Gain: There was a time when if you weren’t sore the next day, people thought you didn’t work hard enough. But now, we understand that pushing your body too hard isn’t always the best approach, and rest days are crucial. Here’s why recovery matters.

Your Choice Isn’t a Critique of Theirs

So, why do people care so much about what you’re doing with your fitness routine? I think it comes down to validation. When someone sees you making different choices, it can make them feel like their own decisions are being questioned, even though they’re not. Your choice isn’t a referendum on what anyone else is doing—it’s just what works for you.

It’s not that you’re saying, “You’re wrong for using pre-workout,” just like they’re not saying you’re wrong for skipping it. We’re all on different paths, with different goals, and that’s totally fine.

Do What Works for You

At the end of the day, your fitness journey is personal. Whether you’re hitting the gym for some heavy lifting, joining a high-energy group class, or finding your flow in yoga, what matters is that it makes you feel good and strong. You’re not asking anyone to change their routine, just like you’re not expecting anyone to skip pre-workout just because you do (though, really, you might be saving a bit on supplements 😉).

So, the next time someone seems overly interested in why you’re choosing your workout routine, just remember: they’re likely just looking for validation. And that’s okay! But your choice isn’t a critique of theirs, and their choice doesn’t need to define yours. We all have our own journey, and as long as it works for you, that’s all that matters.

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Sources:

• Benefits of Strength Training:

  • Mayo Clinic - Strength Training: Why It Matters

• The Low-Fat Diet Myth:

  • Harvard Health Publishing - The Low-Fat Diet Myth

• Why Recovery Days Matter:

  • Verywell Fit - Importance of Recovery Days

The Myth of "I'm Here for You"—Why Empty Support Is Worse Than Silence

We've all heard it before—the classic, hollow refrain that seems to echo louder during life’s hardest moments: “If you need anything, I’m here for you.” It’s often delivered in a text message, a comment on social media, or even a quick call. But how many times have you actually felt the support behind those words? For me, it’s all too familiar—hearing these promises during times of tragedy, only to be left completely alone when I could’ve used a real hand.

It’s not just frustrating—it’s exhausting. In fact, this kind of performative compassion can often make a tough situation worse, not better. Let’s break down why the well-meaning phrase “I’m here for you” can do more harm than good—and what we can learn about genuine support.

The Reality Behind "I'm Here for You"

What does it really mean when someone says, “I’m here for you”? For many, it’s an instinctive response, something to say when they don’t know how to actually help. It’s easy to send off a quick message and feel like you’ve done your part. But as psychologist Dr. Elizabeth Scott points out in her article on performative empathy, this kind of support often lacks follow-through. The result? The person in need is left feeling abandoned by the very people who were supposed to care the most .

I’ve had my fair share of experiences with this. After hearing “If you need anything, let me know,” I decided to actually take people up on it. I would reach out—asking for a quick call or a small favor—and suddenly, their schedule was too busy, or they were overwhelmed with their own lives. The excuse was always ready, and I was left to handle everything alone.

And here’s the thing—I’m not asking for the moon. A phone call, a text that checks in, a small act of kindness… that is what real support looks like. But saying you’re “here for me” without following through just adds insult to injury, leaving me to question why I even bothered asking.

The Performance of Sympathy on Social Media

We’ve all seen it—the social media performance of sympathy. A tragedy strikes, and suddenly your feed is flooded with people posting public declarations of support. It feels good to be publicly tagged in a heartfelt post, right? Maybe not. In fact, research shows that these kinds of public displays of empathy often do little more than make the poster feel better about themselves . For the person receiving it? It feels superficial at best.

I’ve been there. After suffering a major personal loss, I received countless “If you need me, I’m here” comments and direct messages. But when I actually needed someone? Crickets. No follow-up, no real offer to help. It was all for show—just a way for them to appear supportive without actually being there. And don’t even get me started on the performative #thoughtsandprayers that pop up on every tragedy post .

The Power of Genuine Support

Real support isn’t flashy. It doesn’t need to be broadcast on social media or shouted from the rooftops. In fact, the most meaningful help I’ve received has come from people who don’t say much at all—they just show up. Maybe it’s bringing over a meal, sending a handwritten card, or simply sitting with you in silence when you can’t even put your feelings into words.

Experts in compassionate listening agree that sometimes, words can be more damaging than silence . Rather than offering empty phrases, taking real action or simply being present can be far more impactful. If you're looking to be a true support to someone, consider asking them specific questions like, “Can I bring you something to eat?” or “I’m free to help you with errands on Thursday. Would that work?” These concrete offers show that you’re invested in helping and take the burden off the person to guess how to ask for help.

Why I’m Done With “I’m Here for You”

At this point, I’ve given up on expecting any real action from the people who casually say, “If you need me, let me know.” I’ve realized that, more often than not, it’s a phrase people use to make themselves feel better without having to put in the effort to actually be supportive. And I’m okay with that now—because honestly, I don’t need you.

I’ve been figuring out life on my own for a while now. During every hard moment, every crisis, I’ve been the one sending birthday cards, showing up to your parties, supporting you, making sure you feel loved. I’ve been driving down this one-way street of support, while the people around me barely glance in my direction. So no, I don’t need your empty promises of “being there” for me when I know you won’t show up. I’ve got it covered.

A Call for Meaningful Change

So, what can we do to change this? First off, stop offering empty words. If you don’t have the time or emotional bandwidth to help someone in a meaningful way, that’s okay—but don’t say you’re “here” for them. Instead, consider offering a small gesture, or just acknowledge their pain without committing to something you won’t follow through on .

And for those of us who’ve been on the receiving end of these empty statements, maybe it’s time to stop waiting for help that’s never going to come. We have to prioritize the people who truly show up and recognize the difference between performative compassion and the real thing. And if that means cutting out the noise and relying on ourselves a little more? So be it.

Because at the end of the day, I’m tired of pretending that an “I’m here for you” text means anything. I’ve been here for myself all along—and that’s the only constant I can count on.

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SOURCES

1. Psychology Today – Understanding Performative Empathy  

2. Harvard Business Review – The Limits of Public Sympathy on Social Media  

3. The Atlantic – The Problem with "Thoughts and Prayers"  

4. Verywell Mind – The Art of Compassionate Listening  

5. The New York Times – Why It’s Okay Not to Always Offer Help  

Finding Your Abigail: Lessons on Relationships, Boundaries, and Personal Growth

In our journeys through life, many of us pour our time, energy, and love into our relationships, often without expecting anything in return. Yet, when we face disappointment or betrayal, it’s easy to feel like David did when he was insulted by Nabal after offering protection. That moment of insult stirred a rage in David that made him consider riding off with swords drawn, ready to avenge the slight against him. While we may not brandish swords, we often contemplate cutting people off from our lives when we feel unappreciated or taken advantage of.

The biblical story unfolds as David, seeking refuge, provides protection for Nabal’s flock and later asks for supplies. Nabal, in a moment of arrogance, not only refuses but also insults David. Infuriated, David prepares for revenge, just as we might find ourselves imagining the severance of ties with those who hurt us. However, it is at this critical juncture that Abigail, Nabal’s wise wife, steps in. She quickly gathers provisions and approaches David with humility and grace. In doing so, she prevents a tragedy that could have stemmed from unchecked anger.

Abigail’s actions prompt us to reflect on our own responses to disappointment. Instead of allowing anger to dictate our actions, we can embrace the courage to respond thoughtfully. Abigail’s plea reminds us that revenge may seem justifiable, but it often carries burdens we do not wish to bear—similar to how cutting someone off might relieve immediate frustration but could also lead to regret and isolation in the long run.

In this way, Abigail acts as a voice of reason, urging David to consider not just the immediate moment, but the bigger picture of his life and destiny. She reminds him that holding onto resentment or seeking vengeance would only weigh on his conscience, diverting him from his path to greater success. This resonates with our own lives; when we’re tempted to cut people off, we should consider what we might lose beyond the relationship—like the opportunities for growth, understanding, and compassion that can arise from conflict.

This theme of perspective is echoed in the wise parable of the Chinese farmer. When faced with both misfortune and fortune—like the loss of a horse followed by the arrival of wild horses—he maintains an indifferent stance, saying, “We’ll see.” This calm acceptance highlights the idea that life events are rarely as straightforward as they seem. The apparent negative can lead to unforeseen positives, much like how Abigail’s challenging marriage to Nabal ultimately positioned her to save lives and marry David.

So, who in your life serves as your “Abigail”? Consider the individuals who offer wisdom and support during tough times. It could be a trusted friend who always seems to have the right advice, a family member who provides a listening ear, a mentor who helps you see the bigger picture, or even a therapist who guides you through your emotions. Your Abigail could be that colleague who encourages collaboration instead of competition or a spiritual leader who inspires you to practice forgiveness. Finding such individuals can be transformative, offering perspective that allows you to engage with the world more thoughtfully. 

Instead of wielding metaphorical swords or cutting people off, consider the power of open dialogue and forgiveness. In doing so, you may find that you not only preserve valuable relationships but also cultivate a deeper understanding of yourself and others. 

Ultimately, both Abigail's story and the farmer’s wisdom remind us that events in life should not be hastily labeled as good or bad. Instead, by focusing on personal growth and mutual respect in our relationships, we can navigate challenges with grace and wisdom. Embrace the lessons learned, seek out your Abigail, and allow yourself to grow into the best version of yourself, forging connections that enrich your journey.

Seeking Help: A Call for Harris County's Elderly Community

 

As we grow older, the need for assistance can become more pronounced. This truth resonates especially for many elderly individuals in Harris County, who may find themselves in challenging situations requiring support. The Bible reminds us in Proverbs 15:22, "Plans fail for lack of counsel, but with many advisers, they succeed." Seeking help before situations become dire is crucial for our senior community to maintain dignity and comfort.

The Importance of Early Intervention

Many seniors may hesitate to ask for help, thinking they can manage on their own. However, waiting until a crisis emerges can lead to stress, financial strain, and diminished quality of life. Ecclesiastes 4:9-10 states, "Two are better than one, because they have a good return for their labor: If either of them falls down, one can help the other up." It's essential to recognize that reaching out for support is a sign of strength, not weakness.

Available Resources in Harris County

Fortunately, there are numerous resources available for seniors in Harris County. These agencies provide assistance with bills, housing, and other essential needs. Here are some organizations that can help:

1. BakerRipley

   • Services: Utility assistance, case management for seniors, caregiver support, and dementia-specific services.
   • Phone: (713) 590-2327 (for utility assistance) | (713) 956-1888 (senior services)
   • Website: www.bakerripley.org

2. Salvation Army Houston

   • Services: Emergency assistance for utility bills, rent, and other essential needs, as well as senior housing.
   • Locations and Phone:
     • 1500 Austin St., Houston, TX 77002 | (713) 752-0677
     • 4516 Irvington Blvd., Houston, TX | (713) 692-0522
   • Website: www.salvationarmyhouston.org

3. Catholic Charities of the Archdiocese of Galveston-Houston

   • Services: Utility and rental assistance for seniors and others facing financial difficulties.
   • Phone: (713) 874-6590
   • Website: www.catholiccharities.org

4. Harris County Community Services Department

   • Services: Assistance with rent, utilities, and transportation for seniors.
   • Phone: (713) 696-7900
   • Website: csd.harriscountytx.gov

These organizations offer a range of services designed to help seniors navigate financial challenges and access the care they need. It’s advisable to call ahead to confirm eligibility requirements and the availability of funds.

The Call to Action

As we reflect on the importance of community and support, let's encourage the elderly in our lives to seek assistance when necessary. 1 Peter 5:7 tells us, "Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you." By reaching out for help, seniors can alleviate some of their burdens and improve their quality of life.

In conclusion, let’s advocate for our elderly community members to be proactive in seeking the assistance they need before challenges escalate. Together, we can build a stronger, more supportive environment for our seniors in Harris County.

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If you know any elderly individuals in need, please share these resources and encourage them to reach out for help!

Privacy: The Antithesis of Change

Growing up, I had my own room, complete with a lock on the door. Whatever shenanigans were happening inside—whether it was a late-night snack binge or a messy arts-and-crafts explosion—was strictly my business. My mom, bless her heart, always had a talent for turning our home into a treasure hunt for lost items. But with that locked door, she could keep her own messes under wraps... Little did I know, the cozy privacy of her room was crafting a fortress against change.

The Messy Reality of Privacy

Fast forward to adulthood, and the same walls that once provided a comforting sanctuary now feel like they’re closing in. Take my mom, for example. Her famously messy habits—think trash on the floor and enough laundry to stock a thrift store—once only affected her immediate space. But now, with age and a bit of a health scare, she’s needing help to reclaim her environment, and guess what? Her mess is affecting the entire family! Who knew the hidden consequences of a closed door could manifest as a family-wide cleanup intervention?

If my mom had been more open about her struggles, maybe we could have tackled the clutter sooner. Instead, we’re now navigating a collective cleanup, which, let’s be honest, is about as enjoyable as trying to find a clean pair of socks in a room resembling a post-apocalyptic zone. (I swear, if I find one more half-eaten snack under the couch, I’m moving out!)

When Private Problems Become Public Disasters

This isn’t just a personal saga. The phenomenon of privacy stifling change extends beyond messy rooms. Just look at mental health. Many people suffer in silence, locked away in their personal struggles while the outside world remains blissfully unaware. According to the National Alliance on Mental Illness, approximately 1 in 5 adults experience mental illness in a given year. If more folks felt comfortable sharing their struggles, maybe we’d see earlier interventions and a shift in societal attitudes toward mental health.

Take the recent trend of celebrities opening up about their mental health battles. From Selena Gomez to Dwayne “The Rock” Johnson, it seems everyone is sharing their journey. It’s like a group therapy session, but with better lighting and a higher chance of being trending on X.

Then there are financial woes, where privacy creates a lovely little bubble of denial. People often hide their financial struggles, leading to the “keeping up with the Joneses” syndrome. A report by CNBC states that 69% of Americans live paycheck to paycheck. Just imagine if everyone shared their money troubles—suddenly, budgeting could be the hottest dinner conversation topic. “Oh, you’re still paying off that vacation? I just discovered the joys of instant ramen!”

The Great Escape from Reality TV

And let’s not forget the irony of reality television! Shows like Hoarders and Tidying Up with Marie Kondo capitalize on the very messes people try to keep private. When individuals finally open their doors to outsiders (or camera crews), they often discover their hidden issues are far more common than they thought. Sometimes, privacy isn’t just about protecting yourself; it’s about isolating yourself in a bubble of chaos.

Imagine if everyone started filming their messy lives. Suddenly, your average Tuesday would look like an episode of The Real Housewives of My Apartment. “Watch as Jeanicia attempts to clean her kitchen while avoiding the mystery substance growing in the corner!”

Breaking Down Barriers

So, how do we break down these barriers? First, we need to cultivate an environment that encourages openness—whether that’s in families, friendships, or workplaces. Creating a culture of sharing can lead to transformative change. Just like I’m learning to help my mom tackle her clutter (cue the motivational music), we can all start to address our issues before they become overwhelming.

After all, when we share our struggles, we often find that we’re not alone. And who knows? That friend you thought had their life together might also be drowning in a sea of unfiled paperwork and dirty dishes! (Spoiler alert: they probably are. Just ask about their closet.)

Conclusion

In conclusion, while privacy can feel like a sanctuary, it often acts as the antithesis of change. We can all benefit from a little more openness—whether that’s about our messes, our mental health, or our financial struggles. Let’s unlock those doors and tackle the chaos together! Because, in the end, change doesn’t happen in isolation; it happens in community.

For further reading on the relationship between privacy and mental health, check out these sources:

1. National Alliance on Mental Illness - Mental Health Facts
2. CNBC - Living Paycheck to Paycheck
3. Psychology Today - The Dangers of Secrecy

So, next time you think about locking your door, consider what might be waiting on the other side—because change, much like that snack you forgot about under your bed, won’t clean itself!

Why Are Teachers the Underdogs in a World of High-Paying Professions?

Picture this: a room filled with eager students, notebooks at the ready, eyes wide with curiosity. In front of them stands a teacher, not just delivering lessons but shaping the very fabric of our society. Yet, while we cheer for athletes scoring touchdowns and actors winning Oscars, we seldom give a second thought to the educators who are molding the minds of future generations.

So, how can we reconcile the reality that teachers, who play such a crucial role in our society, are funded through public taxes that few are willing to increase, while being undervalued compared to other professions that command high salaries? Let’s dive into this paradox and uncover why teachers remain the underdogs.

The Tax Dilemma: We Want It All, But Don’t Want to Pay

It’s no secret that many people would prefer to keep their taxes low. After all, who doesn’t enjoy the feeling of a few extra bucks in their pocket? But here’s the catch: those extra bucks are often what fund the education system. Lowering taxes means less money for schools, which in turn leads to lower teacher salaries. It’s a classic case of wanting the benefits without wanting to foot the bill.

Imagine if we treated our schools like we treat our favorite restaurants. If you want that gourmet burger, you’ve got to pay for the quality ingredients. The same goes for education. If we want top-notch teachers who can inspire and innovate, we need to be willing to invest in their salaries and resources. Yet, this conversation is rarely on the table when tax cuts are discussed.

The Value of Education: Why Aren’t Teachers Paid Like Doctors?

In our society, professions that command high salaries—think doctors, lawyers, and executives—are often viewed through a lens of prestige. These careers are associated with years of rigorous training and specialized skills. But what about teachers? They too undergo extensive training, often earning advanced degrees and certifications. Yet, they’re frequently relegated to the sidelines in terms of respect and remuneration.

One reason for this disparity lies in how we define value. We often equate financial success with societal worth, assuming that higher pay reflects greater importance. But the truth is, teachers impact lives in profound ways that go far beyond a paycheck. They instill knowledge, critical thinking, and social skills that help shape a well-rounded citizen. Yet, when was the last time you saw a teacher featured on a magazine cover or celebrated at an awards show?

The “Hero” Complex: Teachers vs. Superstars

Consider this: we adore the superhero narrative. We cheer for the athletes who make miraculous plays and the entertainers who captivate us with their performances. Yet, the real superheroes—the ones who show up every day, often with their own resources to support their classrooms—are teachers. They don’t wear capes, but their impact is undeniable.

So, why aren’t they placed on the same pedestal? One reason may be the visibility and glitz surrounding other professions. It’s easy to admire a famous actor on the red carpet, but teachers work behind the scenes, often unnoticed and underappreciated. The irony is that while we elevate these high-paying professions, the backbone of our society—education—remains underfunded and undervalued.

The Shift We Need: Elevating Teachers to Their True Worth

If we want to elevate teachers to their rightful status in society, it starts with changing the narrative. Here are a few ways we can begin to make that shift:

1. Advocacy for Education Funding: Join local school boards or advocacy groups that push for increased funding. Your voice can make a difference in how education is prioritized in your community.

2. Community Support: Volunteer in schools or donate supplies. When communities rally around teachers, it shows that they’re valued and supported.

3. Celebrate Educators: Initiate or participate in local events that honor teachers. From Teacher Appreciation Week to awards ceremonies, let’s shine a light on their hard work.

4. Promote the Importance of Education: Use social media to share stories that highlight the impact teachers have on students’ lives. Let’s create a culture that values education and the professionals who deliver it.

Conclusion: The Call to Action

In a world where teachers are funded through public taxes that few want to increase, we must confront the uncomfortable truth: our society undervalues them. By recognizing their essential role and advocating for their worth, we can begin to shift the narrative.

So, the next time you think about cutting taxes, consider what that means for education. Let’s invest in the real heroes—those who dedicate their lives to teaching—and ensure that the people shaping our future are given the respect and compensation they truly deserve. After all, every student deserves a teacher who feels valued, just as much as we celebrate the stars on the big screen.

Sources

1. Education Funding Overview
2. Teacher Salary Data
3. Value of Education in Society

Let’s change the conversation and put teachers where they belong: at the forefront of our society’s achievements.

Motherhood Isn't Mandatory: Redefining Success for Girls

From childhood, many girls are surrounded by subtle, and sometimes loud, messages that suggest motherhood is their ultimate destiny. Whether it's seeing their own moms juggling schedules and snacks like Olympic athletes or observing peers proudly parading their new baby siblings, the assumption is often that girls will follow the same path. But what if they don’t want to? What if their life goal isn’t to become a snack-slinging, stroller-pushing superhero? It’s time to talk about how families and educators can teach girls that it’s perfectly okay not to want kids. Spoiler: You can be a functional adult without ever changing a diaper.

Breaking the Mold: Early Conversations and Diverse Role Models

From an early age, most girls are handed dolls, play kitchens, and strollers, as if their future resumes will have "mother" listed under Skills. But what if we switched it up? Why not astronaut helmets, science kits, and pretend boardrooms? If we want girls to see life beyond motherhood, we need to give them more options to explore. I mean, why are all the pretend baby bottles when you could give them a tiny coffee maker and let them pretend they’re running their own café at 5 a.m. (like their future startup CEO selves)?

For real change, we need educators to step up. Think back to career day in school. Did anyone ever introduce you to a woman who didn’t have kids and was totally thriving? No? Me neither. Let's fix that. Showcasing successful women who never walked down the path of motherhood—like Oprah, who opted to change the world in different ways¹, or Ruth Bader Ginsburg, who balanced motherhood but left a legacy that transcends it²—can change the narrative. Moms are amazing, but non-moms can change the world too, just without spit-up on their shirts.

As someone who doesn’t have kids by choice (I’m Team No-Baby), I remember how awkward it felt explaining that decision to people who acted like I was cancelling a subscription to happiness. It’s important for girls to know there’s no "life script" they have to follow.

Addressing the Biological Clock Myth

Let's talk about the “biological clock.” If I had a dollar for every time someone said, “You’re going to regret it later when your clock runs out,” I could buy myself a high-end, fancy watch to remind them that I make my own timeline. While it's true that fertility decreases with age, recent studies show that women are having kids later and still thriving as mothers—or not having kids at all and living their best lives³.

Waiting until your 30s to have kids is actually pretty standard now, and yet people still act like it’s a race against time. The truth? There’s no prize for being the youngest parent in the PTA. Educators can jump in here too, by talking about the science of fertility and the joys of self-development. Imagine if health class wasn’t just about reproductive organs but also about financial stability, travel, and personal growth. In my 20s, I was busy getting certified as a fitness instructor and traveling, while others were busy… well, busy with other things (aka kids). We all have different paths.

Reclaiming Youth: Emphasizing Self-Development Over Baby-Making

There’s this sneaky idea that women are “selling their youth” if they don’t have babies early, like we’re all at a fertility garage sale, discounting our best years. But guess what? Your 20s and 30s are prime years for self-exploration, building careers, and doing what you want to do—not what society expects. My 20s weren’t about bedtime routines and diaper duty. They were about certifications, trying new hobbies, and, yes, late-night taco runs (because who says I can’t enjoy my time?).

The message to girls should be clear: your youth isn’t on sale. Use it to discover your passions, find your strengths, and create the life you want, whether that includes babies or not. Studies even show that women who wait to have kids—or who never do—can still lead incredibly satisfying lives³. Educators can add value here by emphasizing personal development in school. Imagine if instead of pushing prom and proposals, we encouraged mentorships and side hustles. Let girls know that it’s perfectly okay to figure themselves out before making lifelong commitments (to kids, or anything else).

Redefining Success: Valuing Choices Equally

We need to talk about how we define success. Right now, society still places a lot of emphasis on traditional roles, like becoming a wife or mother. But success is so much broader than that. Why not celebrate all the choices women can make? We should applaud women for their contributions to society, personal fulfillment, and professional achievements, whether they choose to have kids or not. Let’s stop measuring female success by how many baby booties are in their house and start recognizing the impact they’re making in the world.

At home, parents can do a lot to change this narrative. Throw parties for everything. Instead of just baby showers, why not have a party when your daughter graduates, starts a new job, or gets a promotion? I mean, let’s be honest: a promotion pays better than parenthood. If I had a dollar for every kid-related gift I’ve bought for others… oh wait, I dohave that dollar—I spent it on yoga classes and wine.

Conclusion: A New Story for the Next Generation

Teaching girls that it’s okay not to want children isn’t about discouraging motherhood—it’s about showing them that they have choices. By normalizing child-free paths and highlighting diverse role models, we give the next generation of women the freedom to decide for themselves what role, if any, motherhood will play in their lives.

So let’s raise a glass (of mocktails, wine, or kombucha—your choice) to a future where girls know they can be anything they want to be: CEOs, travelers, educators, or taco enthusiasts—without the expectation that they’ll also be mothers.

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References:

1. Parker, K. (2015). Oprah Winfrey on Not Having Children and How She Sees Her Legacy. O, The OprahMagazine.
2. Ginsburg, R. B. (2020). RBG's Legacy: Balancing Motherhood and Supreme Court Justice. The New YorkTimes.
3. Schmidt, L., & Sobotka, T. (2022). Fertility Trends and Delayed Childbearing: A Global Perspective. Demographic Research.

Philosophy? More Like Life’s Survival Guide: How I Became the Ultimate Multi-Hat-Wearing, Plate-Spinning, Never-Sleeping Human

Let me just start by saying this: I have no idea how I got here. You ever sit down and look at your resume and think, “How am I even still standing?” That’s me. But instead of freaking out about all the roles I juggle, I just laugh—and keep on doing it. Because what else are you going to do when your life is basically an unpaid internship in multitasking?

I like to think my life’s philosophy is something like survival of the fittest, but more like survival of the busiest. You see, I’ve dabbled (okay, more like deep-dived) into everything. Media production? Check. Fitness instruction? You bet. Public relations? Yup, that too. Let’s not even start on my obsession with spreadsheets, deadlines, and planning things down to the second. Trust me, it’s a superpower, though sometimes it feels like a curse.

The Art of Being “Dynamic”

Here’s the thing about the word dynamic. It sounds cool, right? Like I’m out here living my best life, effortlessly switching between jobs like an action hero in a business suit. Reality? I’m just really good at putting out fires while looking calm. One minute I’m editing a video or organizing a community event, and the next, I’m leading a high-intensity fitness class (you know, the kind that makes you question if you’ll ever walk again). It’s all about balance—or maybe it’s just getting really good at pretending you’re balancing it all while low-key losing it on the inside.

If you throw enough hats at me, I’ll figure out a way to wear them all. In fact, throw a few more. I dare you. But please make sure they’re stylish and match my outfit—I have standards.

Learning New Technologies: A Comedy in 3 Acts

My life could be a three-part series titled Learning New Technologies: The Jeanicia Chronicles. I’m not saying I’m a tech genius, but I’ve picked up a few things along the way. Whether it’s mastering the latest media tools or figuring out which camera angle makes you look less like you’ve been awake for 48 hours, I’m your girl. I’ve navigated software programs like Adobe Premiere, Final Cut Pro, and a bunch of others that sound fancy but really just mean I’ve spent hours staring at loading screens.

There’s nothing more humbling than trying to teach yourself new technology while muttering, “Why does this button even exist?” But hey, you do what you gotta do. And you know what? When it works, you feel like the biggest boss around. When it doesn’t? Well, you learn to laugh—after you’ve calmed down from screaming at your computer, of course.

The Zen of Chaos

People always ask how I stay calm under pressure. Spoiler alert: I don’t. I’ve just mastered the art of looking like I’m totally at peace while internally, my brain is doing jumping jacks. It’s a skill, really.

Here’s a trick: deadlines are your friends. They keep you on your toes, stop you from spending 14 hours binging a streaming series (which, trust me, has been tempting), and force you to get stuff done. So yeah, I’m deadline-driven. But let’s be honest, if it weren’t for deadlines, I’d probably still be contemplating my to-do list from 2016.

Self-Reliance or How to Be Your Own Cheerleader

People love to say, “I’m here if you need me,” and bless their hearts, but when you’ve been figuring out your life solo for this long, you’re kind of like, “Yeah, sure, thanks, but I got this.” I don’t just wait around for people to show up, I keep things moving. I've learned to rely on myself, because when life throws curveballs, you’re often the only one holding the bat. Whether it’s figuring out how to make deadlines work, sending birthday cards (on time, mind you), or showing up to parties like a social butterfly, I’m the queen of being there—for others and for myself.

Community Engagement: Where “Fun” Meets “Why Am I Doing This Again?”

I’ve spent a lot of time working with and for communities. Whether it’s organizing events, tutoring kids, or mentoring students, I’ve been the go-to person for lifting others up. It sounds noble, but sometimes it feels more like, “Wait, did I just sign up for this?” But, in the end, it’s always worth it. Even if I leave with a few more grey hairs.

And don’t get me started on fitness! Leading group classes is basically like herding cats—but the cats are doing squats and asking you if the workout will “really hurt tomorrow.” Spoiler: It will.

The Moral of the Story?

Here’s the takeaway, friends: life is messy, it’s full of surprises (most of which you didn’t ask for), and you’re probably busier than you ever imagined you’d be. But that’s okay. Whether you’re switching between job roles like a superhero or trying to fit in your fifth Zoom call of the day, as long as you’re still laughing through it all, you’re winning.

So yeah, I may not have everything figured out—but I’ve got enough of it down to keep on going. Plus, if there’s one thing I know, it’s that juggling a thousand things at once? That’s just a Tuesday for me.

Welcome to "Running Through Society: Jeanicia’s Lens"!

Welcome to "Running Through Society: Jeanicia’s Lens," where I, Jeanicia Elder, a fitness-loving, mass-communication-wielding, social commentator, take you on a hilariously bumpy jog through the wild world of societal issues!

As a certified personal trainer who spends my days sweating it out in group fitness classes, you could say I’m well-acquainted with running—both on the treadmill and from societal norms. With an M.S. in Mass Communication and a knack for media strategy, I’ve got the background to tackle tough topics, but I promise to keep it lighthearted.

Join me as I trip over trends, dodge awkward conversations, and occasionally pause to catch my breath (and maybe a snack). Whether you’re here for the laughs, the insights, or just to see what I’ll say next, I’m thrilled to have you along for the ride! Let’s hit the ground running!